Hyper-parenting is harmful and counter productive

Tags: parenting

"Hyper-parenting" is the word for parents who prioritize their children's intellectual success at the expense of their child's happiness.

It is damaging to kids and is often counter-productive. Extreme expectations stunt higher-level thinking, risk-taking, and curiosity. Continual anger or disappointment becomes toxic stress, which in extreme cases can lead to suicide [1].

Babies do not develop at the same rate and early development is not a signifier of later success as an adult (i.e. just because your kid is smarter than other 3 year olds doesn't mean he'll be a genius at 18).


  1. Medina, John. Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five. Seattle: Pear Press, 2014.